“I got okay being alone, and that’s not the same as being lonely. These can be inspiring words for a single person to hear, as being single is often considered synonymous with being lonely. Or being desperate, or being old, or not being good enough – in turn, it’s almost considered a sin to be single, even by the most emancipated people.”
In a world where a left swipe means you could be alone and sexless forever and taking a chance could mean you find ‘The One’, the question we often find ourselves asking is, what is love? When romance writer Aastha Atray Banan found herself getting asked questions about the daily struggles of love she decided to start a podcast, Love Aaj Kal, that dealt with everything about love and relationships.
The L-Word is about modern love: from ghosting, polyamory, love in the times of social media to more every-day problems like dealing with heartbreak, infidelity and getting out of toxic relationships.
Love can be many things – sometimes intimidating, frustrating, and often exhilarating – this book tells you how to make sense of it.
I would have probably passed it up but I’ve read some wonderful articles by the writer in HT Brunch which prompted me to pick up this book.
The L-Word is a succinctly worded self-help book that aims to explain how the meaning of love has evolved and how you can make it work in your favour.
Aastha Atray banan takes the uncomplicated approach to discuss subjects ranging from how and where to meet people, finding the best dating apps, consent, cheating, gaslighting, recognising toxicity and managing long distance relationships, among others.
No one ever said love was easy but neither is it the be all and end all of life. Love is what you want for yourself. Irrespective of how old you are, whether you’re looking for love or choose to remain single, are in a polyamorous relationship, or are divorced, it is entirely your choice (and anyone else involved in this relationship).
Everyone, young or old, is looking for answers to walk this tricky path and has little help when it comes to talking about it with people they trust for fear of being judged. The author lays out some common sense rules to help you make wiser choices. After all, love is meant to make you happy. Love should be healthy. And most importantly, it should bring out the good in you.
When more and more people are consulting life coaches to deal with stress, it might be worth investing in this short, comprehensive book. I believe this will be especially beneficial for teenagers who are entering a phase where love begins to take precedence even though they may not understand it.
A wisely amusing dissection of the various modern relationships, The L-Word reminds you to value yourself above all others.
The L-Word: Love, Lust and Everything In-Between by Aastha Atray Banan. Published in 2021 by HarperCollins India.
Book 50 of 2021.
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About Photo: Given the title of the book, need I explain the photograph? 🙂
This heart-shaped letter papercraft is made using cardstock.
About the Author: Aastha Atray Banan has been a journalist for 19 years and is currently the editor of Sunday Midday. She has previously published four romance fiction books, and this is her first non-fiction. Aastha wears many more hats other than being a writer; she has a hit podcast ‘Love Aaj Kal’ on Spotify India which deals with relationships and love and has also written and released four original songs.
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